Parenting is a toughest task as it is stressful but it also in a way completes us. A tender kiss and a small hug from the kid makes you forget all the stress and removes your tiredness.
As a parent, its our task to stay cool and calm during the mischievous behavior of the child. The mischievous behavior of the kid get on to nerves to push their boundaries. Unfortunately we actually can’t keep ourselves calm, when he is jumping and you fear that he may fall down or when he wants to play with dirty things. Feeding them is toughest task. Kid shows tantrums for finishing the meal and its toughest task for mother.
This time we say the things that we don’t want to say but unintentionally we say those due to stress and pressure. We forget these words, but they have long term impact on the kid. Our sentences harm our little bundle of joy. We should avoid speaking sentences like:
1. If you don’t do ‘something’ I’ll leave you here..
This is the most common thing we say but it hurts the kids the most. They fear of being left alone.
2. Behave like someone else
Each child is an individual. He can’t be like someone else. Why to stress the child, when we know that two different individual can’t behave in a same way.
3. Do as I say.. don’t question ME.
The message conveyed here is I am superior to you and you have to do what I say. Child feels “Parents count,Kid don’t.”
4. You messed it already..leave it..I’ll do it..
From parent’s point of view we can say we are helping the kid but actually we aren’t. We are making the kid helpless by helping him even when he doesn’t need it actually.
5. you should be ashamed of yourself..
Shame lowers the self-confidence of the kid. It lowers the self-esteem of the kid especially when the kid is unaware about his fault.
If unintentionally I said any of these things, I am regretting it. But due to easy awareness available nowadays, we can say thanks to the today’s digital age. We can avoid saying such distrustful things to our kids and raise beautiful kids.